Reddit is the place to go if you ever need help from impartial people. There are several accounts of people asking whether they are at fault for their actions on the AITA subreddit topic.
A woman told a story of a family issue that demonstrates the intricacy of the relationships between family members, particularly the in-laws.
She specifically said in her letter that she had been dating Nick for about four years. She claimed that she got along well with Nick’s family. She would exchange gifts with her in-laws while spending the holidays with them. However, she found out at one point that they didn’t feel particularly close to her.
OP was wounded and perplexed. When she told her partner about it, he advised her not to get upset because no one else was invited and she wasn’t the only one who was left out.
While OP remained at home, the family continued their trip.
Later, when fall arrived, OP made the decision to host Nick’s family and serve them a meal she had made herself, complete with her family’s favorite chili dish.
Since it was a family meal that was kept secret, OP declined Nick’s mom’s request for the recipe during dinner. The OP said, “Well, according to you, we’re not,” to the MIL’s subsequent question, “But aren’t we a family?”
The MIL was taken aback and merely replied, “Oh, okay,” before departing. Nick had not spoken to his mother in days after becoming enraged with OP for saying that to her.
But according to OP, she is not at fault for not sharing her family recipe with someone who clearly didn’t think of it as such.
