Relationship problems can occasionally lead to conflict, especially when there is a significant difference in the financial circumstances of the two couples. After Darren got married, this is what transpired. He reacted strongly to being placed in a difficult situation that he found humiliating as a young man from a lower socioeconomic background than his wife’s family. Darren reached out to us for guidance.
Darren’s letter is as follows:
Since I’m an ordinary employee who lives paycheck to paycheck and my wife hails from a wealthy family, it was only fitting that her father would pay for our wedding.
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When we got on the plane for our honeymoon, she sat first class, and I realized my ticket was economy. She said, “This sucks baby, but Dad says he’s not your ATM.” Furious, I left her on the plane
An hour later, her dad called. I was surprised and couldn’t believe it when he said, “I gave you a dream wedding and a dream honeymoon and didn’t ask you for a dime. Is this how you treat my daughter?
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He added, “My daughter is used to a certain lifestyle, and I’m going to keep giving her that, but you need to understand that I will not provide for you too!”
His words only made me more furious. I told him that I cannot accept being humiliated just because I am not rich like them and hung up on him
My wife tried to convince me to go on the honeymoon on the next flight, but when I refused, she decided to come back home so we can talk. Am I wrong to react this way?
“You must realize that I will not support you as well, but I will continue to give my daughter the lifestyle she is accustomed to,” he continued.
His remarks simply increased my rage. I hung up on him after telling him that I could not stand to be made fun of simply because I am not as wealthy as they are.
After I declined to go on the honeymoon on the next flight, my wife made the decision to come home so we could discuss. Am I acting incorrectly?