After his daughter turned down his proposal to accompany her down the aisle, a 48-year-old dad shared his story on Reddit about how he changed his mind about paying for her wedding.
My daughter, who is 19 years old, has always been able to think on her own. I am a 48-year-old male. I’ve always valued the independence and independent thinking I instilled in her. But we lately encountered a small obstacle. The father had begun to share his tale.
She decided she didn’t want me to lead her down the aisle at her wedding after she got engaged. She contends that since neither her mother nor I “own” her, we are not entitled to “give her away.” This offends me as we never treated her like an Her stance seems extreme to me and despite discussions, she’s refusing to budge on the issue. I respect her choices, but I feel she’s disregarding our feelings completely. As a response, I told her that if she feels that way, then I won’t be paying for her wedding.” He then continued that if she will insist on her opinion, he will not pay for the wedding.
“I don’t want to come across as controlling or manipulative. It’s true, I don’t “own” her, I also don’t owe her a fully-funded wedding. She can pay for her own wedding if she’s insistent on this stance. I’m feeling quite conflicted about this.” He then concluded his post, and later on added some more information to his post.
“Edit: So, this isn’t about making the wedding about me. Walking her down the aisle (while all eyes are on her anyway) and then sitting down is hardly making the wedding about me. It’s about her attitude. She’s had every opportunity in life so far, and to exclude us from this day is a spit in the face. It’s a rejection of everything we’ve done for her, sacrificed for her, given her. It’s selfish.” He had explained his intentions and continued,Ninety percent of wedding customs and symbols have origins in things that we don’t recognize anymore. Shall we halt them all? For much longer, a father bringing his daughter down the aisle has been about respect, pride, love, and honoring the father-daughter connection than it was about ownership. This is true of the rings, the flowers, the dress, the wedding party, the cake, and the flower girls. He added.